by Jay S. Nemiro, M.D.
The intent of this statement is to communicate my commitment to each of you as human beings, and as individuals having difficulty in conceiving. Webster describes commitment as "a committing or being committed; the act or process of consigning, delivering, or entrusting, as for safekeeping; the act of pledging or engaging oneself; to give in trust; to speak or act in such a manner as to bind oneself to a certain line of conduct." To me commitment is directly in line with responsibility. I experience a responsibility to each one of my patients to do a complete and thorough evaluation of their infertility as well as make recommendations for their treatment. At all times, I will be honest in my feelings about a particular situation as well as truthful in my reporting and interpretation of the different test results or outcome of a particular procedure.
Arizona Center for Fertility Studies was founded in 1982 with a commitment to the successful evaluation and treatment of infertility, as well as to the emotional well being of couples and individuals. Some say that infertility cannot be overcome. At Arizona Center for Fertility Studies, we are committed to your vision of having children become a reality. The clinic embraces all patients, regardless of age, marital status and gender preference. What speaks far louder than the words of our commitment to you are the more than 8000 babies born to our patients. Today, the Center stands at the leading edge of fertility studies and scientific research.
Arizona Center for Fertility Studies continues to strive for new breakthroughs in the field of reproductive medicine by staying in the forefront of state-of-the-art techniques. This also supports us in offering you accurate information and the emotional support you need. Couples seeking to have children are often confused by the barrage of complex language and statistics that surround treatment. Yet, with the rapidly expanding options available, there is much to be gained from persistence in asking the right questions and demanding the answers that you can understand. In fact, we believe that with up to date technology and a clear understanding of your goal, pregnancy is now possible for more couples than ever before.
I am always open to comments, suggestions, concerns and even criticisms that you may have of me or any one of the people that I work with. It is your responsibility as a patient to be sure that you are clear and completely understand what is going on with your situation and evaluation, that all your questions are answered and that you are comfortable with the course of treatment and are clear about what the possibilities are. If you have questions or concerns, it is your responsibility to find the answer by either asking me or one of the people who work with me. Although it is often busy in the office and you may feel that I am "too busy to answer your questions", or "don't want to bother me", or "it wasn't important anyway", I request that you pull me aside or call me and ask your questions, otherwise you need to be responsible for the negative feelings and frustration it may create.
Also, I am, as well as each person who works at the Arizona Center for Fertility Studies, committed to your emotional and mental health, as well as your physical health. At any time, you should feel free to completely and honestly share your feelings and thoughts with us, always knowing that it will be held in complete confidence and the response will be non-judgmental. I have also created in-office support groups led by a qualified person as well as inter-patient phone networking for your ongoing emotional support.
In summary, commitment is the stuff character is made of, the power to change the face of things. It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism. Each of us at the Arizona Center for Fertility Studies is totally committed to your rights as a patient, as individuals and as a person trying to create a fundamental right . . . life. All we are given is possibilities and my commitment is to the possibility.
SOME ADDITIONAL THOUGHTS FROM DR. JAY NEMIRO - SPOKEN FROM THE HEART AND HAVING THE PROFOUND PRIVILEGE AND HONOR OF PARTNERING WITH WOMEN WHO TRUST US WITH THEIR MOST INTIMATE THOUGHTS AND FEARS ON THEIR JOURNEY TO FULFILL THEIR DREAMS
"Infertility brings the status quo to a screeching halt; in fact, the status quo loses its status. Rather, I would call the diagnosis of infertility an abrupt and violent blast of an unwanted reality. There is nothing gentle or gradual about either the diagnosis or the treatment of infertility. With infertility, as with other violent intrusions, our internal gyroscopes go haywire and life as it has been known seems upside down, inside out and backward".
Arizona Center for Fertility Studies experiences over and over again, that women handle this "time in their life" with grace, strength, discipline and determination; occasionally, the "process" becomes overwhelming and outside support and counsel is needed to get back "on track". Arizona Center for Fertility Studies, as an entire staff, is fully and whole-heartedly, committed to every woman's physical, emotional, spiritual and psychological wellbeing. Many times, it is just about "listening" to what the woman has to say and acknowledging that although you cannot begin to understand what she is going through, you will be there for her no matter what. Arizona Center for Fertility Studies has often said, "the easy part of our job is getting you pregnant, the hard part is keeping you in the game". Stay in "the game" and there is always a logical outcome... pregnancy.
There will be "good times" and "not so good times" and each part of the journey, Arizona Center for Fertility Studies strongly believes, has to be traveled together as partners with compassion, understanding, forgiveness, listening and an awareness of the feelings and "fears" that a woman is experiencing as she moves through to achieving her dream. Even after a woman is successful in getting pregnant, the job "is not done" because so many of the feelings, concerns and fears are still there, just not so apparent; and the same support, commitment and understanding needs to be ever so present. Many times, not until a healthy baby is born, can the woman "relax and enjoy", and begin to forgive and forget or at least "lay to rest for awhile" those many days, weeks, months and sometimes years, of worry and "self-recrimination" and finally say, "it was all worth it".